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Slide 1: ==== ==== Learn to love and raise your vibration to attract the right love for you! http://awsm.co/aff_c?offer_id=4&aff_id=1139 ==== ==== It seems that we are all looking for love, that we would all like to find someone to love who would love us in return, someone that we could enjoy spending time with, someone who respected us, made us feel good, understood our wants and needs, enacted those wants and needs, and stayed with us for the rest of our lives. I have no problem with any of the above, in fact, I encourage it, wholeheartedly, with one comment. If that person stays with us for the rest of our life, we are going to have to work at our love, and we are going to have to work very hard. If we fail to work at it, then we might be looking for love from someone else - which may or may not be a good thing. Love is an ever-changing emotion, it is not exactly a science and it is certainly hard to quantify, it has to be flexible and it will, without doubt, go through a myriad of stages which will include passion, desire, respect, happiness, companionship, certainty, predictability, uncertainty, stability, change, change and change. Our ability to accept change is the only way that love can really last, our acceptance of the change within our lives and our loves is the only certainty I can offer. If we are too rigid or too controlling, then love will not last, love with wither and love will fade. That is a certainty as well. It is imperative that love is consistent, yet never predictable. And with this reminder, I encourage you to seek out love with an open, agile and disciplined mind, I encourage you to realize that you are the most important thing in your world, that you must be sure of who you are and where you stand on certain issues, you must look at all sides of life and see love from their point of view as well. It is no good storming into a relationship with a rigid agenda and expecting your partner to adhere to all your rules, just as it is unwise to hope that the person you are with will know exactly what you want and will give it to you at the exact time you want it. It is important to have boundaries, goals and desires without being too controlling about each of these; if you have an agenda that includes traditional values, it is wise to balance those ideals with reality, it may be necessary to see that love has to be as flexible and as unconditional as possible if it going to work; there needs to be a modicum of reality in the equation if you are going to find successful love - it is important to realize the value of what you have without falling for the
Slide 2: pressure of society and finding yourself on a path that may ruin your love for the sake of appeasing everyone else or achieving the childhood fantasies you were sold. It is important to accept another person's opinion and ideas without changing your mind at every available opportunity because you are scared of losing that love. Love is, above all a personal journey and should not be sacrificed to prove a point or adhere to the ideals of others. Ultimately, unless you know who you are, unless you have worked on yourself, unless you have made the effort to confront your bad temper, your drinking habits, your over-zealous energy, your laziness or your hygiene and health, you are not going to be very easy to love and you are not going to find love very easily. So, in order to find love, confront yourself, work on yourself and allow yourself to change and grow with or without a relationship. Nobody else will make you a better person, nobody else will fix you, nobody else will make your life perfect; they may well enhance your life, they may well bring added enjoyment, they may well be a positive addition, but they won't last long if you have not worked on yourself and they won't stay around if you do not work to improve who you are throughout your life. Love - a continuous work of art. Guy Blews Guy Blews is the author of 'Marriage & How To Avoid It' and the instigator of Realistic Relationships. He has a blog at http://www.RealisticRelationships.com where he questions our methods of finding love and offers answers that are applicable to real life. His latest book is entitled 'Realistic Relationships' and is available at his website. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Guy_Blews