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Slide 1: How to Recover From an Emotional Affair - Do You Know The First Thing You Need to Do? http://www.marriage-sherpa.info “How do I recover from an emotional affair?” When you first discover an affair, you naturally feel devastated. But once you have taken a little time to absorb what has happened, your next concern may be how to recover from an emotional affair.
Slide 2: Often the initial reaction is to put up a strong front. To show your spouse that you can survive without them. That it is indeed their loss. You may even be feeling like you want to tell him or her off and walk out the door.
Slide 3: Often the initial reaction is to put up a strong front. To show your spouse that you can survive without them. That it is indeed their loss. You may even be feeling like you want to tell him or her off and walk out the door. But in reality, in most cases you feel crushed and demoralized. It is not uncommon for someone who has been cheated on to go into a bit of a depression. To withdraw from their normal routine. Even shut themselves off by going into their room and locking themselves in for long periods.
Slide 4: Often the initial reaction is to put up a strong front. To show your spouse that you can survive without them. That it is indeed their loss. You may even be feeling like you want to tell him or her off and walk out the door. But in reality, in most cases you feel crushed and demoralized. It is not uncommon for someone who has been cheated on to go into a bit of a depression. To withdraw from their normal routine. Even shut themselves off by going into their room and locking themselves in for long periods. More often than not, instead of revenge want you want is to simply feel normal again. And this is the step that is most important to take first.
Slide 5: Heal Yourself First To recover from an emotional affair, often times the cheated on spouse will seek out an apology or feel that if their spouse comes clean about the details of the affair and is open and honest about it that it will help them to feel better. But looking outward of one’s self is generally not the solution to recovery. What you really need to do right now is look inside yourself and address YOUR emotional turmoil and, most importantly, heal your broken self-esteem.
Slide 6: Heal Yourself First To recover from an emotional affair, often times the cheated on spouse will seek out an apology or feel that if their spouse comes clean about the details of the affair and is open and honest about it that it will help them to feel better. But looking outward of one’s self is generally not the solution to recovery. What you really need to do right now is look inside yourself and address YOUR emotional turmoil and, most importantly, heal your broken self-esteem. Despite the pain the discovery of the infidelity has caused you, nothing and no-one can make you feel as though you are worthless. Often you will hear, “He made me feel so worthless” or “she made me feel so angry when I found out.” Well, no-one can MAKE you feel anything, those emotions are your own.
Slide 7: You need to ask yourself some questions:
Slide 8: You need to ask yourself some questions: - Has anything about you changed since the affair happened?
Slide 9: You need to ask yourself some questions: - Has anything about you changed since the affair happened? - Aren't you still the smart, interesting, wonderful person you have always been?
Slide 10: You need to ask yourself some questions: - Has anything about you changed since the affair happened? - Aren't you still the smart, interesting, wonderful person you have always been? - What right does this affair have to take that away from you?
Slide 11: You need to ask yourself some questions: - Has anything about you changed since the affair happened? - Aren't you still the smart, interesting, wonderful person you have always been? - What right does this affair have to take that away from you? - Why should YOU feel worthless because of the affair?
Slide 12: You need to ask yourself some questions: - Has anything about you changed since the affair happened? - Aren't you still the smart, interesting, wonderful person you have always been? - What right does this affair have to take that away from you? - Why should YOU feel worthless because of the affair? The simple truth is that you shouldn't and you don't have to. You DO have worth and by choosing to realize this, by taking the initiative and recognizing that your spouse's actions don't have to make you feel worthless you are taking the very first step to heal yourself and possibly your marriage.
Slide 13: Healing yourself is just the first step when you are looking to recover from an emotional affair. Whether you have experienced a cheating spouse or are afraid that it could occur, to restore the trust and save your marriage from divorce I strongly recommend for you to download the 7-Part Survive an Affair course from Dr. Frank Gunzburg. Click here now for instant access: http://www.marriage-sherpa.info. Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.