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Slide 1: ==== ==== Yes, you can recover your sex life when you have lost your sex drive. You can join the thousands who are now enjoying the best sex of their lives. Discover how to stop fighting, sulking and getting depressed over your married sex life. There is an answer! Click the link below: http://ow.ly/8F7Nm ==== ==== While conflicts and struggles in marriage are inevitable, it's not always best to discuss your marriage problems with just anyone. Arguments can include anything from a minor disagreement about where to eat for dinner to a husband's decision not to come home for dinner at all. While almost any conflict can be handled when approached in the proper way, what happens when you don't know what to express to your husband or how to say it? Or what happens when your husband refuses to talk, listen, or give you the emotional support you need in order to solve your conflicts? I'll tell you what happens: We start searching around in hopes of finding someone who will listen to our marriage problems and possibly give us sound advice or some kind of solution. After all, we're women; we just need to talk it out, cry, and have someone who understands what we're going through. While there are some people who you may be able to discuss your marriage problems with, there are some people who you should absolutely stay away from and put in your mental "Marriage No-Talk" zone. Below you'll find these people who you should avoid talking to about your marriage problems. 1) Another man: This includes a co-worker, a friend, your husband's friend, an old boyfriend, an ex-husband, someone you met or reconnected with on an Internet social network, someone who works with you in the church ministry, and sometimes even your male Pastor, (but you must use your discretion). A lot of times talking to men other than your husband can cause you to build unexpected and unwanted emotional ties with them. Doing this could ultimately end in a physical affair if you let it go unchecked. This is one reason why the Bible tells us to guard our hearts, (Proverbs 4:23). As women our hearts tend to be vulnerable and fragile, especially when we feel alienated from our husbands. The last thing you'll want to do is open your heart to another man because you could make your marriage problems even worse. Around the seventh year of marriage my husband and I went through a very tough season in our relationship. Our finances weren't good, we had faced major disappointments, and we had recently given birth to our first child. Handling these transitions caused us to become angry and resentful toward one another. I remember one morning getting into an argument with my husband,
Slide 2: which left me frustrated. By the time I arrived to work, I didn't want to be bothered with anyone, and I'm sure other people could tell from my unpleasant facial expressions. In the midst of this "anger moment," one of my male coworkers complimented me on my hairstyle. It was ironic because I had never looked at this person as being attractive, although I respected him as a person. All of a sudden, I found myself becoming attracted to him. As a result, I started becoming more conscious of how I looked physically, and I think my smile became a little brighter as the days went by just because someone said to me: "Your hair looks nice today." While I never got to the point of talking with this individual about my marriage problems, I realized how wrong I was to even consider this man as an alternative option to my husband. Eventually I confessed this struggle to my husband and while he wasn't happy about what I shared, he did understand how easy it was for me to become tempted. My husband also shared with me that it was normal to be attracted to people of the opposite sex, but it's the next step that determines whether you're on the verge of committing adultery. I also shared with him that I needed him to show me emotional support so I wouldn't crave attention in other places. Since then we have both become conscious of how we treat one another and we're also mindful of how we deal with people of the opposite sex. 2) Other girlfriends who are also having marriage problems or who are newly divorced. The term "Misery loves company," is evident in this scenario. A lot of times our problems tend to make us bitter. If you know you're already upset and resentful towards you husband, you don't want to start talking and trading war stories about your marriage with another woman who is in the same predicament. Also when you talk to women who just came out of a bitter divorce, their words can plant negative seeds into your heart and cause you to start thinking even worse about your husband and your marriage than you did before. I remember talking to one of my girlfriends who had recently divorced. I had gone to her to discuss something unrelated to marriage. All of a sudden she started pouring out her heart about how she was unjustly treated by her ex-husband. I listened for awhile, but I also tried to offer some positive encouragement. No matter what I said, my words fell on deaf ears and were met with negativity and justification for her actions. From her perspective, her ex-husband was all wrong and she was right. By the time I left my friend, I almost had a headache and was emotionally drained. At this point I made the decision to stay away from her on a personal level until she was able to overcome her anger, bitterness, and resentment. I didn't need her emotions and opinions to influence how I treated my husband. 3) Single Girlfriends Let me ask you one question: If you wanted to learn how to make great-tasting lasagna, would you go to someone who burned it the last three times she tried to make it? Absolutely not! This is the same thing as talking to a single woman about your marriage problems. She has no proof that her advice or tactics for dealing with your husband will work because she has no man or the experience of marriage. In fact, she may give you advice that's totally contrary to the Word of God and could ultimately destroy your marriage. 4) Nosey family members and friends.
Slide 3: Believe it or not, you do have some friends and family members who want to see you and your marriage fail. If they didn't, they would pray for you and keep their mouths shut instead of giving you their useless opinions. A good example of this is the story of Nehemiah. This man had a call on his life: To rebuild the wall in Jerusalem (Nehemiah 2:5, 12). When Sanballat heard about Nehemiah's project, he became angry, (Nehemiah 4:1). Although Sanballat tried to distract Nehemiah from building the wall, Nehemiah stayed focused and determined to finish his project. Start looking at your marriage as a lifelong project of commitment that you're constantly working on to improve. You have good days and other days when you just want to give up; but you must refuse to let people, haters, and even life's challenges hinder you from making your marriage work. 5) You- if what you're saying to yourself is negative and non-biblical about you, your marriage, or your husband. Often when we go through trials in our marriage, we start saying things like, • "My husband makes me sick." • "This marriage will never work." • "I want a divorce." • "I think I married the wrong person." Remember, there is power in your words and if you're not careful, the things you speak will come true, (Proverbs 18:21). Often our marriage problems can cause us to become filled with a lot of emotions such as anger, bitterness, and resentment, which can make us vulnerable to the opinions of other people. There are many people who may not understand what we're going through and could give us advice that will cause us to make decisions that will our marriage problems worse. Their words could cause us to make irrational, non-biblical decisions and ultimately push us in the wrong direction and out of the will God for our marriage. If you've enjoyed this article, visit http://www.committedwife.com today and become an exclusive member so you can receive more articles like this, in addition to devotionals and heart stopping interviews on subjects such as communication, finances, intimacy, and other jaw-dropping topics. Tiffany Godfrey, also known as the Committed Wife, is a marriage resource specialist who's very passionate about helping to save Christian marriages by encouraging Christian women. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tiffany_Godfrey
Slide 4: ==== ==== Yes, you can recover your sex life when you have lost your sex drive. You can join the thousands who are now enjoying the best sex of their lives. Discover how to stop fighting, sulking and getting depressed over your married sex life. There is an answer! Click the link below: http://ow.ly/8F7Nm ==== ====