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Slide 1: ==== ==== Finding true love or a soul mate is a life-long search. It is not easy finding people that you can trust. Now, add long distance or travel to your relationship, and you have a real challenge! It is time to even those and reduce your concerns over being separated. Don’t let long distant love get you down or make you feel that it is impossible. Get some help and start feeling good about your bond. Get this course and even the odds for your success! http://79b92tx1j7xu1q6aukhzmqer8o.hop.clickbank.net/ ==== ==== When I tell people that I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, I am often asked the question, "How do you do it?" Quite frankly, I do not know how I have done it myself without becoming bald from ripping my own hair out. Somehow, some way, my boyfriend and I have managed to stay together when we only see each other every 1-2 months. Being together is to say the least, AWESOME. We just cannot get enough of each other. These precious times together always seem much too short, and we both dread the long wait until we see each other again. Everything about being together means so much. Holding hands--which I think many couples take for granted if they can see each other everyday--is something I appreciate with every ounce of me; like you cannot imagine. In long distance relationships, that element of touch is always missing for great spans of time, and I just cannot get enough of it when we get to be together. I appreciate the togetherness, and miss it so much when we cannot have it. When we part our ways and go back to our respective homes, the magic pretty much ends. Long distance relationships are not like the ones you see in movies with the fairy tale plots. That being said, my boyfriend and I are possibly the worst candidates for a long distance relationship... Reason #1: For starters, for each of us, this is our first relationship... ever. We were friends for about a year. A mutual friend had introduced us and we had met in person. From that day forward, we were best friends. Well one thing led to another, and though it is a long story, the short version is my boyfriend confessed his feelings to me after a year of pure friendship. Taken aback, I recognized his feelings but turned him down for the sake of the friendship, thinking nothing could come of anything because we were states apart, and it would be crazy to start something when you are that far away from someone. Well it took me about three months to realize I shared his feelings, and that I was absolutely crazy for turning him down. Therefore, at that time, we decided we would try this thing out. Reason #2: One of us loves the phone, and the other hates it. This equation equals lots of argument. "We've only been on the phone for 30 minutes!" "I don't want to be on anymore! I have nothing else to say!" "Please, just stay on for 5 more minutes?" "No, because it won't be enough for you." For anyone thinking about being in a long distance relationship, you have to understand
Slide 2: that the phone will be your main connection to your partner. Therefore, if you do not like the phone, then you will not like a long distance relationship. Not that long distance relationships are terribly likable to begin with, but they will be will be much more less likable, won't they? Reason #3: We simply cannot afford to see each other as much as we would like--we are lacking in the money department. Our relationship started when we were sophomores in college. With full class schedules, there is not time for a full-time job in there to make enough money to afford to make all the trips we would like to make. My boyfriend and I actually have never been able to afford any of the trips we have made to see each other, as infrequent as they are. We have to use what we have in savings. Pulling out my debit card to pay for a bus ticket is bittersweet, knowing that it will be awhile before I can replace that money, but at the same time I get to see my love. Is it worth it? Yes, just do not get into negative money. So how did we not fall apart? Why was our relationship not over much longer ago? Well, it almost was. I honestly cannot tell you how many times we have almost broken up over long distance issues. I say "almost" but sometimes when we argue, if it is over a big issue, there may be a threat to break up, without there actually being real intentions to do so, especially 5 minutes after the words come out of your mouth, and you have calmed down. We have both been guilty of saying things we do not really mean. So why? Because of the love we have for each other, simply put. We have become so connected, that to not be with the other, would be devastating for both of us. We want each other so much. Therefore, before you decide you cannot handle the long distance because you are tired of it, think about the person you are with. Would you stay with them if distance was not separating you? If the answer is yes, then you should reconsider your decision. You may regret leaving the person. After all, someday long distance relationships have to become relationships not separated by distance any longer. Can you wait for that day? If you love the person, you most certainly can. How did we work through the problems? At the start of our relationship is when our phone issues were a larger problem. It was not until over time, there became a mutual understanding that our phone conversations were important to our relationship, and were the glue in keeping us together. However, we also no longer stay on the phone for the sake of staying on the phone. If we run out of conversation topics and there is dead air, either someone comes up with something to talk about or we are done talking. This rule works to make both people happy when they have differing opinions on talking on the phone. Trust me. This is coming from someone who wanted to stay on the phone in the quoted argument above. Being our first relationship, many would think this factor would certainly indicate a grim future for the relationship. We have found however that it has actually kept us together. First love is a strong love. Without prior experience in other relationships, one may believe first relationships never last, especially a long distance relationship. However, we started our relationship as two mature people, both willing to work to make our relationship possible. Before deciding you want to be in a long distance relationship with someone, decide if both you and your prospective boyfriend/girlfriend really want this. Both hearts have to be in it and want to work hard for the relationship. Working through problems is necessary in any relationship, and even more so in a long distance relationship because they will and do happen.
Slide 3: As far as the money situation, it has not improved yet and we have not been able to see each other more than every 1-2 months. But we have to have something to work on, right? Michelle has been in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend Frank since April 2006. Want to learn more about this long distance couple? Seeking more advice? Visit the website: WWW.LOVINGFROMADISTANCE.COM to ask them questions and read other advice previously given. Have an opinion or advice of your own, feel free to share it on their website. TAKE THE LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP SURVEY to compare your relationship with others. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Michelle_F. ==== ==== Finding true love or a soul mate is a life-long search. It is not easy finding people that you can trust. Now, add long distance or travel to your relationship, and you have a real challenge! It is time to even those and reduce your concerns over being separated. Don’t let long distant love get you down or make you feel that it is impossible. Get some help and start feeling good about your bond. Get this course and even the odds for your success! http://79b92tx1j7xu1q6aukhzmqer8o.hop.clickbank.net/ ==== ====